The definition of Victor is: One who defeats an adversary; the winner in a fight, battle, contest, or struggle.
The definition of Victim is: One who is deceived or cheated, by his or her own emotions or ignorance, or by the dishonesty of others.
Many of us were cheated and abused and hurt and taken advantage of by others. It is essential that we determine not to allow our emotions to overrule our intelligence. A wise man once told me "When you buy the thought, you buy the lie!" We must learn to say NO to negative thoughts, to defeatist ideas, to martyr attitudes. The more you do it, the better you get at it.