Friday, August 10, 2018

Do High School Memories Make You Shudder?

Mackenzie High School
Mackenzie High School Detroit

When asked what my favorite school memory was I shuddered.  Favorite.  School.  Memory.  I couldn't think of one.   

I did well in school with excellent grades but school is as much about socializing as it is about academics.  Socially, I was an outcast and had few friends.  I grew up in a legalistic home where anything fun was not allowed.  I loved my parents dearly and did not rebel but I realized that they were imposing their convictions on me and I felt that wasn't fair.

Girls Basketball

The best way to sum it up is to relay a vivid memory with you.  It was gym class.  First of all I hated gym.  I have never been nor do I want to be athletic except for basketball.  I was our team's star player and the memories on that court make me smile - especially the free throws.  I could do them backwards and still make the basket. But it was only a small portion of the whole school picture and the negative memories certainly outweighed the positive ones.

school dance

Back to gym class.  Once a week our teacher would teach us a new dance.  I can still see her rigid face with those tight lips.  Every day she wore a white blouse, blue skort, and seamed nylons with white gym socks and saddle oxfords.  

Because my parents didn't permit me to dance, my previous gym instructors allowed me to go to the library on dance days. 
mean teacher

But not this chic!  She delighted in making a spectacle out of me.  I was embarrassed enough that I couldn't dance but to be made fun of by a teacher was more than my tender heart could handle.  She required that on dance days I bring a note from my parents as to why I was not participating in dance class.  Then she made me read it aloud to the class - every week.

The whole class was sitting on the gym floor and the teacher would shout, "Carol, are you going to dance today?"  I would answer softly and she would say, "I can't hear you!  Come to the front.  Do you have a note excusing you from this class?"

She knew I did and it was a pathetic thrill of hers to have me give it to her.  She would glance at it and then yell "READ THE NOTE!"

If I didn't read it loud enough for everyone in the class to hear it, she would make me read it again.  "I excuse my daughter, Carol, from dance class today because it is against her religion."


The class would snicker each time.  Except for Jim.  He was the one of three lettermen in the school who were revered by students and teachers alike.  And one of the most handsome young men - anywhere.  One day Jim stood up and walked toward me as I was leaving the gymnasium heading to the library.  He bent down and whispered, "Don't pay any attention to her.  She's an idiot.  Who wears nylons and socks?"  He made me chuckle and I never forgot that act of kindness.

Forty years later when I launched Battered Hope, I connected with Jim on Facebook.  He still lived in Detroit.  He still hung out with the same friends and yes, they remembered me.  All of us started to communicate and look forward to connecting on my next trip to Detroit.  The plan is to meet their spouses and go out for dinner.  I am sure I will cry as I remember Jim's kindness and can give him a hug and a thank you!

This was a Secret Subject monthly blogging challenge.  My subject this month was:  Take me back to school.  Tell me about your favorite school memory. It was submitted by Sarah

Here are some other bloggers who met the challenge.  I guarantee you will enjoy each one so grab a cup of Jo and enjoy:

Baking In A Tornado                            
The Lieber Family Blog                           
The Bergham Chronicles                        
The Blogging 911                               
Cognitive Script                                
My Brand of Crazy        

Tuesday, August 7, 2018

When Should You Get a Restart Button?

When Should You Get a Restart Button?

Many of us have read The Station by Robert J. Hastings at some point in our lives.  It never gets old or dated.  It is always a fresh message.  It always bears repeating.  It is unadulterated truth.  Read it.  Think about it.  Here is a portion:

"Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic vision.  We see ourselves on a long trip that spans the continent.  We are traveling by train.  Out the windows we drink in the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of children waving at a crossing, of cattle grazing on a distant hillside, of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat, of flat lands and valleys, of mountains and rolling hillsides, of city skylines and village halls.

But uppermost in our minds is the final destination.  Bands will be playing and flags waving.  Once we get there our dreams will come true, and the pieces of our lives will fit together like a jigsaw puzzle.  How restlessly we pace aisles, cursing the minutes for loitering - waiting, waiting, waiting for the station."

Friday, July 20, 2018

What Were Your Best Summer Memories from Your Childhood?

As a child, summer was something you looked forward to all year long.  Longer days to play outside.  Ice cream.  The beach.  Summer Camp.  NO school.  Picnics.  Road trips to visit cousins.  Playing board games on the front porch that lasted for days.  Playing in the rain.

As an adult, summer is much different.  Working.  Working inside.  Dieting so you can fit into that bathing suit.  Taking the kids camping and being the one who does all the cooking, clean-up, planning.  Forgetting how much you enjoyed the heat when you were 90 pounds young.  Hating it now.  

Regardless, summer does have its moments and my best ones are spending time with the grands.    

"Ready to go for a walk, Gramma"                 


Friday, July 6, 2018

How Important is Your Freedom?

ArrestFreedom: The definition of freedom can certainly mean different things to different people.  Essentially it is the power or right to act, speak or think as one wants to without restraint.  

Sometimes we are bound by circumstances out of our control.  When I was arrested I knew the officials had made a mistake and the truth would come out.  BUT.....when you are locked in a room and realize you have no rights or freedoms, your mind races and fear can overtake your thoughts.  (Read that story here)

Broken marriage

Some people feel bound in a marriage/relationship and spend every waking moment either planning their escape or figuring out how to survive while 'incarcerated.'  Unfortunately, it is a negative state to exist in and often leads to fear, depression and even disease.  

Friday, June 29, 2018

11 Reasons Why You Should (NOT) Have a Dog as a Pet

Do you wonder whether or not you should get a dog?  You weigh the pros and cons and think about all the work....... I am sure there are circumstances where someone does not want to have a dog in their life, but I can't imagine life without a four-legged fur baby.  Some people have stated they will never get another dog when their dog passes over the rainbow.

old dog
I have rescued over 30 dogs and when one dies it is always devastating.  They can become such a major part of your life and member of your family.  But for every dog you may lose, there are hundreds of precious ones who need a home.  For the love of dogs everywhere......if you are wondering whether you should invite a dog into your are some reasons to welcome this four-legged family member:
alarm clock dog

1.  You will no longer need an alarm clock.  Dogs have internal clocks with alarms that go off right