Friday, December 20, 2019

What Do You Do When You Are Blindsided and Can't See A Solution?

Three going on....?
"Have you noticed how much happier everyone is this time of year?"  Someone asked me that the other day and frankly, I was a bit shocked.

I witness the opposite each year. Maybe it is because we are in retail business and people are regularly complaining -- not enough time or money to do what they need to do.  In general, people are impatient and grumpier than the rest of the year - hands down. 

Stress is over the top for many people at Christmas time. Personally, I find this time of year relaxing as I am prepared at least a month or two in advance. My goal is to have all the gifts wrapped and baking done by November.

Normally we travel to see the grands and spend Christmas with them. This year we will not see them until January which means we don't have to travel during busy times avoiding hours of waiting for a spot on the ferries. 

Two different sets of friends have invited us for turkey dinner on separate days -- so maybe that is why I am not stressed? I don't have to cook!

On another level, this past month has been more disturbing than I could have imagined. I spent a few hours every day for the past two and a half weeks straightening out a mess in our business that blindsided us. It is still not resolved. But worrying about it will not change anything.

No matter what I go through on a daily, weekly, monthly or yearly basis - I try not to allow it to rob my joy. Some days that seems impossible but worth the effort to maintain a positive attitude.

My heart aches for friends who have lost love, family, or health this past year. I do know life can change in an instant - and that goes both ways. 

When I focus on the good and hope for the best in every area, I am encouraged to bank on that instead of my current woes.


For those of you who struggle with depression during the holidays, please find something to laugh about - and find someone who can use a smile or a hug.  We do not have to look far to realize how blessed we truly are and there are others hurting more than us.

Christmas cactus


                                      INTO OUR HOME

Christmas cactus

Instead of 'over the hill and through the woods', it is 'over the ocean to 
Gramma's house we go' -- next month!


This is a Fly on the Wall post where we can have a sneak peek into other bloggers' homes -- you will enjoy each one as they share what is happening in their neck of the woods.

Baking In A Tornado                  
Menopausal Mother                     
Spatulas on Parade                     
Go Mama O.                                                                                                

Friday, November 22, 2019

How to Know When It Is Time to Say Good-bye

November is my birthday month but celebrating it has never been a priority. My mom was very ill my entire childhood and spent most of her life in bed fighting a debilitating disease. Birthday parties were out of the question. I often hoped my mom would forget my birthday so she would not have to feel guilty if she was not well enough to bake a cake or buy me a present.

Consequently, I often forget my birthday if I am busy or forget to check the calendar. Yet, I love birthday celebrations and try not to forget those special days for family and friends. And even if I may forget... my family always remembers.

I often wondered:  Why don't we celebrate our mothers on our birthdays?  After all, they did all the work!
Fall is here


Halloween was exceptionally fun this year as we kept our store open past normal closing time. We gave candy to over 450 kids. This little girl gave both my husband and me a hug when she got her candy. Her mommy smiled proudly when I asked if I could take her picture. I wonder if she hugged all the store owners downtown?

Shark costume

Neither of the grands had previous knowledge that mom was going to be a shark!  

The whole neighborhood had a great laugh.



I didn't think I would see my grandkids until Christmas but they surprised us with a three-day visit on the November 11th long weekend.
3rd year in Boxing and loving it

William turned eight last month and it was obvious that he is maturing rapidly. When my hubby asked William if he would like to shoot some balls at the driving range, he was ecstatic. It was the fourth time Papa took him to the range and this was the first time William wanted to do exactly as Papa directed. He wanted to take his time, stand and swing properly -- his efforts paid off with a much longer shot of 125 yards plus.

"Papa, when I am a teenager, will you still take me to the driving range?"

"Are you kidding?  I can't wait until we can play the full course."

With tears in his eyes William said, "Papa, that makes me so happy.  I didn't think you would want to hang out with a teenager."

Knowing how thoughtful and grateful this kid is, it won't be a surprise that he will most definitely want to still hang out when he is a teen.
Skating lessons
Starting Skating Lessons

At the beach

Last days of Fall at the beach


When it comes time to say good-bye to our furry friends, we often delay the inevitable. We hope there will be a miracle of improvement. We hope they might die naturally in their sleep so we do not have to make that heart-wrenching decision. Our daughter is one degree short of being a veterinarian.  We were anxious to hear what her thoughts were regarding Gunner when she visited here.

Gunner and Star

"Mom......he's old. He's tired. BUT, he is also stubborn. He isn't ready to go. He eats well and has no potty issues." I felt a glimmer of hope.

"As hard as it is on you, it is going to be even harder on Star. He may be staying alive for her."

I had to agree that I had those same thoughts. Gunner spent the last ten years of his life taking care of his little wife, Star. He took the brunt of the abuse; the kicks and brutal hits by his abusive owner in an effort to protect Star.

"Mom, prepare yourself that she will probably go shortly after Gunner does."

So, we wait.

This has been this month's Fly on the Wall post. Today, four bloggers invite you to catch a glimpse of what is going on if you were a fly on the wall in their homes.

Buzz around and see what you think....

Baking In A Tornado
Menopausal Mother
Spatulas On Parade

Monday, October 28, 2019

How to Cut Your Veterinarian Costs to Almost Zero


Have you had to sacrifice your own luxuries, vacations, or fun because of the high cost of maintaining your pet’s health?  Have you noticed that these costs seem to be rising because your dog needs more trips to the veterinarian’s office?

As animal lovers and dog rescuers, we would do whatever was needed to ensure our pets lived a happy, healthy life.  But having to say good-bye to our precious furry friends never got easier, especially when they died too young. 

As a kid, we fed our dogs table scraps (which since has become taboo). Long before ‘pet food’ turned commercial, people rarely if ever, took their dogs to the doctor. They lived long, happy lives. So WHAT HAPPENED?  Pet food, that’s what.

Friday, October 18, 2019

Do You Talk to Yourself When You Do Something Stupid?

Do you talk to yourself when you do something stupid?  

"Why did you do that?"  

Then you continue by answering yourself:  "I don't know.  I can't believe I did that."

I have had a few of these conversations this month and they went something like this:

My spaghetti sauce had been cooking all day and I was ready to boil the pasta.  Removing the lid of the pasta pan, I almost fell over from the stench.  The bottom of the pan was covered in mold.  Under the layers of mold it appeared I failed to wash the pan the last time I made pasta.  

"How did that happen?  How is that even possible?  Someone else must have done that."

I'd post the picture but it isn't pretty -- just take my word for it.  Here's a picture of the pasta instead.

Saturday, September 28, 2019

Are You Confident the Supplements You Take Will Not Harm You?

Do you care what is in your vitamins?  Do you think it matters? It matters enough that it could mean the difference between life and death.  I choose life -- what about you?

I know I would not be alive today if I had not done my research 40 years ago and switched to a safe brand.  I had been diagnosed with cancer and turned to nutrition for help.

This is week five of my series on how we are being conned by numerous vitamin and pharmaceutical companies that claim their products are the best; the safest.   Don't be easily fooled.  There are a few simple questions you can ask about your brand to determine if you are being conned.  This is the purpose of these posts.  I recommend you start with Week One to get the full picture.

Week One:  Do you want health for your time tomorrow?  Click here 

Week Two:  Does your brand produce vitamins with the life factor intact?  Or are they over-processed and of little value?  Click here

Week Three:  Simple Test to see if your vitamins are toxic or not  Click here  

Week Four:  Don’t be a victim of the dirty dozen – what should NEVER be in your supplements    Click here

Week Five:  If this scares you, it is time to do some research and make a change.  Click here

What is the difference between Kosher and Certified Organic and should you care? Kosher requirements are far more stringent than Certified Organic.  Isn't your body worth the best?  Without getting technical about the differences, here are a couple basic reasons to use Kosher vitamins.
kosher vitamins

Sunday, September 22, 2019

Are You Scared Yet? You Should Be

World's Greatest Con Job -- It Gets Scarier

Does it really matter how old or how young we are?  Shouldn't each of us be concerned about our health?  Don't we all want to live fuller, healthier lives?

This is week five of my series on how we are being conned by numerous vitamin and pharmaceutical companies that their products are the best; the safest.  There are a few simple questions you can ask about your brand to determine if you are being conned.  That is the purpose of these posts.

Week One:  Do you want health for your time tomorrow?  Click here 

Friday, September 20, 2019

How Do You Manage Your Time?

Each of us is given 24 hours a day to spend any way we want -- aside from obligations, commitments, jobs, family, promises, or responsibilities.  If we are fortunate enough to have any spare time......we can have some fun!

Recently someone told me that there is 'scientific' research proving that time is moving faster in the past decade.  I have a difficult time wrapping my brain around that.  There are still 60 seconds in a minute.  But, I have to agree, those minutes seem to be racing around the clock.

I thought To-Do lists were supposed to get shorter but mine seems to grow every day.  Anyone else agree?

It seems no matter how hard we work or how much we accomplish, those times with family are the ones that have the greatest rewards -- the ones we remember the longest -- the ones we photograph.

Having my daughter and grandkids visit for a full week (not once but TWICE this summer) gave me incredible memories to reflect on during the busiest times.

I have a deep drawer in my office where I store their toys.  Brie walked in the front door and before saying anything she ran into my office to get the toys.  This is her surprised look when she saw what Gramma bought her.  I was saving it for a rainy day but......

Thursday, August 29, 2019

Is Honesty Still the Best Policy?

A story worth remembering, thinking about and repeating......  

A successful businessman was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.  Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different and called all the young executives in his company together.

He said "It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.  I have decided to choose one of you."  The young executives were shocked as the boss continued.  "I am going to give each one of you a seed today.  This is one very SPECIAL seed.  I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from this seed.  I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO."