Sunday, March 17, 2019

Be What You Want Your Kids to Be

A story worth remembering and thinking about......  

A successful businessman was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.  Instead of choosing one of his directors or his children, he decided to do something different and called all the young executives in his company together.

He said "It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.  I have decided to choose one of you."  The young executives were shocked as the boss continued.  "I am going to give each one of you a seed today.  This is one very SPECIAL seed.  I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from this seed.  I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO."

Planting a seed

Jim, one of the executives, went home and excitedly told his wife the story.  Together they got the pot, compost and soil to plant the seed.  Every day, he watered it and watched it closely to see the progress.

Three weeks went by and the other executives were bragging how well their seeds were growing. Every day, when Jim checked his pot, there was no sign of growth.  After five weeks of this, Jim was pretty discouraged.

At the end of six months, Jim's pot still remained empty - no sign of growth.  He imagined he had over watered it or got the wrong kind of fertilizer as his colleagues continued to brag about how tall their plants were growing; some of them were now trees.


Absolutely NO growth after one full year

The year was up and they were instructed to bring their plants into the office for the CEO to inspect them.  Jim told his wife how embarrassed he was to bring in an empty pot to the office, but she encouraged him to be honest.  Jim brought the pot to the board room and heard the snickers of the other executives.  Their plants were a variety of shapes and sizes.

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.  Jim tried to hide in the back, totally embarrassed.  The CEO was praising the executives on the growth and beauty of their plants.


"Today, I am pleased to announce that one of you will be my new CEO!"

From the front of the room, the CEO asked Jim to come up and Jim froze in fear that he was about to lose his job.  Walking slowly to the front of the room, there was pity on the faces of the other executives as they imagined Jim was going to be fired.

Seed are planted every dayThe boss asked Jim what happened to his seed and Jim told the story of how he nurtured and cared for the seed but it never grew.  The CEO then asked every one to be seated except Jim as he announced, "I would like to introduce you all to your new Chief Executive Officer."

There were gasps and questions "How can he be the new boss when his plant didn't even grow?"

The CEO explained, "One year ago, I gave every one in this room a seed.  What you did not know was that each seed had been boiled and was a dead seed.  It was absolutely impossible for any of them to grow."

Honesty is the best policy

Jim was the only one in this room with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. He did not substitute it with another seed like the rest of you did.  Therefore, he has shown courage, honesty and integrity and I know he will run this company with conscience."

If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
If you plant perseverance , you will reap contentment
If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
If you plant hard work,you will reap success
If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Knocking Yourself Out About Mistakes Makes it Worse

How many 'if only' moments do we get?  If only I had not said that.  If only I had not gone there.  If only I had made a better choice.  If only I had called them.  If only I had made the effort to see them one last time.  If only.......

@BatteredHope   if only I had

Once we have said it..... it is spoken.
Once we have done is done.
Can we take back the words, undo the deed?  No.

@BatteredHope   if only I had

How much pain have we endured because of the choices we have made?  I lived a good portion of my life in IF ONLY moments. At the time, I did not see any options and made choices which turned out to be devastating.  Often, we are in a situation where we do not see any choice except for the obvious one. When we make that choice and realize it was the wrong one, what do we do?

We make choices every single day of our lives.  Some choices seem very insignificant and we don't think about them; some can change our lives in a moment. If only we had a magic wand to change those moments.
@BatteredHope   if only I had

Did you speak too soon?
Did you not speak soon enough?
Did you marry the wrong person?
Did you choose the wrong business partner?
Did you trust the wrong people?
Did you take a trip you knew you should not have?
Did you spend money you did not have?

YET.......We can make the choice to change our 'if only' moments

See yourself as a victor, more than just a survivor.  You can take the pain, the mistakes, the bad choices and turn them around for good. Chose to laugh in spite of the pain and encourage those around you in similar circumstances.  You can empathize and sympathize from a place that would not have been possible, if you had not experienced the losses.

We can't change what happened to us, but we can change our attitude.  We can learn from our mistakes.  We can choose to forgive those who have hurt us, abused us, robbed from us or.....we can choose to dwell on it, let it fester and destroy our world, our relationships, our health.  What is done, is done. Dwelling on it or worrying about it changes nothing, except makes us bitter, angry or sad.

The flip side is we can move forward instead of living in the past. We cannot change the past but our attitude can affect our future.

@BatteredHope   if only I had

Have you made some choices that you would give almost anything to undo?  Or have you come to terms with those choices and forgiven not just those who hurt you but...... also forgiven yourself?

Friday, March 8, 2019

Nothing Can Stop You - No Matter How Old You Are

 Nothing can stop you - no matter how old you are

How many times have you awakened in the morning and wondered what happened with the past three, four, five, six or seven decades?  Or have you looked into the mirror and felt it was unfair that life passed you by without giving you a chance to pursue the career you always wanted?  As much as some people look forward to retirement, what if you don’t have the income to maintain the lifestyle you have grown accustomed to?  Then there is the backdoor threat of Alzheimer’s.  You may wonder how you are going to stay alert and focused when your days may only be filled with volunteer community work or gardening.  Is your only option being a Walmart greeter?

Friday, February 15, 2019

Moving Twice in One Year -- Are You Insane?

Moving twice in one year is not something I would recommend.  Every move is major but some more major than others!  Although I purged when we moved last year, I was able to take a good look at what I was saving and purged even more this move.  

Christmas concert

It has been a whirlwind experience and took a few days to recover from.  While we were at my daughter's for a week at Christmas we got the call.  "There is an offer on your house and the sooner you can move out, the more it will be worth your while!"  In other words, an offer we couldn't refuse.  

Friday, February 1, 2019

What Would You Sacrifice for a Huge Reward?

The question posed for this month's challenge was:  

You have been offered the following challenge - to live in a tiny house, off grid, for a year and you will be rewarded with $100,000.  Will you do it?  Why or why not?

When I read this, I laughed out loud.  Not only would I do it -- but I already had.  When my hubby suggested we purchase property to build our dream home I was hesitant because it was far from the lifestyle I had grown accustomed to.  However, the potential of turning this into something far beyond that dream was exciting.  

We got up early to catch a ferry to a place I never heard of before.  Finding out that this was only the first of two ferries, each a 40 minute mini-cruise, with a long drive in between, was not a pleasant memory.  My doubts were building but I convinced myself to "Look first; then decide."

Friday, January 4, 2019

Do You Believe New Year's Resolutions Work?

new year's resolutions
When asked what my realistic
goals were for the new year, 
it brought up my dislike for 
New Year's resolutions.  

Even though I may have good
intentions, making a New Year's 
resolution rarely  works. 
The stats prove it.

I am a driven, motivated, hard-working woman who has daily, weekly, and monthly 
goals.  And I beat myself up severely if I don't attain those goals.  I am known to push 
myself to the limit to complete a task.  I run a few businesses and also travel
as a speaker which leaves me no choice but to be organized and focused.  In addition, 
my talk show and book tours are founded on the concept of never ever giving up.  
This is why I only make realistic goals that I know I can attain.

Friday, December 7, 2018

What is a Gift from the Heart?

toilet tissue
Standing in line at the post office with over a dozen parcels in my hands, someone tapped my shoulder gently.  When I turned, she said in a quiet tone, "You have a long line of toilet paper behind you."  Mmmmm.... I wonder how many people had a smile when they saw that; yet one woman was kind enough to let me know.
pantie hose falling down

My birthday party last month was at a swanky Italian restaurant and I was surrounded by family and friends.  I dressed up for the affair and found the perfect pair of (brand new, of course) pantie hose to match my black and white polka dot top.  When it was time to hug everyone goodbye at the door, I stood up and my pantie hose fell down.   I immediately sat down, motioned for a close friend to loan me her wrap and continued to hug everyone from that position.  Husbands of friends have had a field day with this and love teasing me mercilessly.

These are memories we won't soon forget but they always bring a smile even though they were embarrassing at the time.

In this month's blogging challenge I was asked "What is your very best Christmas memory?"  I don't have to dig very deep to respond quickly.  

Friday, November 23, 2018

When You Think Romance is Dead - It May Surprise You

Forty-six years ago today hubby and I tied the knot -- and they said it wouldn't last!  For $100 we bought the wedding package from the Elvis Chapel in Las Vegas.  It included a chauffeur-driven limo to the courthouse to get our license, the cost of the license, the trip back to the Chapel, the chaplain, flowers, music, a witness, a cassette tape of the ceremony and pictures.  I'd say it was a good investment, wouldn't you?

46 year anniversary

Another Milestone

As a joke over the past year, I invited people to my surprise birthday party.  I knew it would never happen so I felt safe making a joke about it.  As this new decade approached, people asked me what I was doing for my birthday.  Neither my husband nor I have ever made a big deal about birthdays and I often forget them until I looked at the calendar.   When my hubby asked me what I would like to do this year as it was a 'big' one, I asked him to cook dinner for me.  He makes the best halibut cheeks and my mouth watered just thinking about them.  

When my daughter said that she and the kids were coming for a visit on my birthday weekend I was ecstatic.  That was the best present.  They were here for four glorious days.