It is quite normal to wonder what would have been different if you had made a different decision. Would it have changed the direction your life took? Hindsight and reflection are the best teachers. In light of the trauma, anxiety, and stress in many of our lives, it is common to think about the What Ifs and If Onlys.
If you could go back 20 years for one hour and change the rest of your life, what would you change and why?My life has been a tumultuous one - on every level, in every arena. Often the storms would come one after the other but many times they would be happening at the same time. Every year had turbulence and it would be impossible to attempt changing anything - it's done. Complicated. Exhausting.
In the light of a cancer diagnosis, loss of a child, being gang-raped and left for dead, total financial ruin, husband falsely imprisoned and more...it is easy to wish things had been different. HOWEVER, who we are today is a result of what happened yesterday. If we dwell on those setbacks and calamities, we can get stuck in self-pity. But, if we look at each situation as a stepping stone to something better and be thankful for what we learned through the crisis, we will not only survive but will thrive.