I have been a business woman longer than I have been a mom. I have been self-employed since the 1970's. As much as I love the challenges of business; in my heart, I am a mom.
My own mother was quite ill when I was born and from a very young age I learned how to care for the sick. I was her legs -- running little errands for her when she could not. I was her eyes - reading to her for hours when her head pain would not permit it. I was her friend who cuddled with her to make her feel better. When the suffering was too intense I was asked to leave the room so she could rest. I would leave, crying. I needed to make her better - thus my need to nurture was born.
My greatest desire when I 'grew up' was to be a mom so try to imagine what it was like to hear these words from three different specialists when I was in my twenties. "I am so sorry but there is not one chance in one million that you will ever bear children. If we don't do a hysterectomy, you will surely die." By now you have figured out that I'm neither dead nor barren. My wish came true. I'm a mom to a beautiful daughter and son.
What makes you a mom?
Why do people call me Mom? I don't dress like a frumpy old lady. I certainly don't 'think' old and most of the time I act more like a kid than a grown woman. So....why am I called Mom?
Don't know. Don't care. What I do know is when someone needs to talk to someone about an intimate problem, I get a phone call. When someone needs a shoulder to cry on, I get a phone call. When life becomes overwhelming or trauma strikes, I get a phone call. I have learned how to listen. I know how to hug. I cry when someone hurts and shout for joy when they win. Isn't this what being a mom is really about?
During the years I home schooled my children and also ran my business from my home, I was often asked "What do you do?" I could have responded by sharing something about my business but I loved this response instead. "I am responsible for creating an environment of love, joy, peace, beauty and order in my home. I am training a future citizen of America. What do you do?"
And as every woman who loves being a mom would tell you -- I would do ANYthing for my kids. I would go ANYwhere to protect them. No mom could love their children any more than I love mine. I was born a mom.
This same desire to nurture extended to dogs and over the past few decades, my husband, daughter and I have rescued numerous pets from certain death to a life where they were loved and nurtured to health.