Friday, July 22, 2016

My 4-year-old Grandson has Questions about His Recent Marriage

When you live a crazy life, you should expect crazy things to happen.  When you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results, you are the crazy one.  I constantly look to the future when life will get easier, slow down a bit and then laugh out loud when I realize that may never happen.

To explain:  I have a lot of jobs, often wearing three or four hats at the same time on any given day.  This is normal for a Type A personality who is a perfectionist and believes that relaxing or sleeping is a complete waste of time.  Don't give me any lectures -- I've heard them all.  Most important thing:  I am NOT complaining. I love being busy.  

Consequently, the thought of doing this month's Fly on the Wall post seemed a bit overwhelming because so much happened in the past two months and it would be a really
l o n g post to share it all.  
View from my room

One highlight I will share with you is that I attended the Advanced Writers and Speakers Conference in Cincinnati and look forward to going back next year.  I learned so much in the workshops, made some incredible connections, made, even more, friends and got to see what it is like to live in 97-degree heat with high humidity.  

Our days were filled from early morning to late evening without time to shop or have any 'me' time -- loved it.  I certainly was not bored for one second.

I left the hotel each day to get to the closest restaurant - that was enough heat to last me until next year.  How do people live, work or BREATHE in that?

Sooooooooo........rather than bore you with all the incredible things that happened the last two months, I decided to do some snippets of the grandkids and their antics.

4-year-old grandson gets married

William (4 yr) and Aubrie (3 months) attended a wedding and I was surprised to see William in this photo - NOT smiling.  He loves to be in pics and always has a big smile. A few days later he shared why.

He was playing with several kids at the reception and there were two boys, 8 and 9 years old, who were pushing the little kids around, calling them names and pulling the little girls' hair.  This is always difficult for William to deal with as he is kind and respectful of his friends and adores his little sister.  Hence, the look on his face in this picture.

Finally, he had enough and told his mom about it. Then he had an idea and said, "I'll be right back Mom."
Moments later he came back to Rochelle's table with a big grin on his face and announced, "They won't be bothering the little kids anymore."

Apparently, he warned the big kids to stop and when they didn't, he gave one of them a hard kick where the sun does not shine which sent the kid onto his back, crying in pain.  

He got the high five from this gramma and papa. There is one language a bully understands and that is his own.  The mothers of the boys were probably upset but if they knew what was good for them, they would not say one word to Rochelle.  And they didn't.

4-year-old gets married

A few days later, William announced he is now married.  He asked his girlfriend and she said "Yes."  (Both moms smile and shake their heads.)  He also announced that he knew it was his job to protect his wife and take care of her.  

After deep thought he asked his mom,"Mom, how can I be a better husband? And can I have one of your rings to give to her?" Rochelle told him to talk to Papa as he probably has one in his store that would fit her.  It will be interesting to see if he follows through.

Every.  Single.  Day.  William begs to hold his little sister.  No matter what he is doing if she cries he runs to her aide.  He talks to her and plays with her without ever tiring.  

William was trying to ride his dirt bike and still hold onto his sister's hand.  How wonderful it would be if all children, people, and nations would have this deep devotion to each other.

Porcupines show no mercy

Two of Rochelle's dogs were attacked by a porcupine. Can you imagine how much this would hurt?

And the 

cutest and 

funniest for last:

Aubrie  started crawling at four months -- can't even begin to imagine how busy she will be when she starts walking.  At this rate, that could be anytime soon.

I was holding Aubrie and got the giggles.  She often has this wide-eyed look on her face. I tried to explain to Rochelle what was so funny but couldn't stop laughing.  

When Rochelle was a little girl she had a Cabbage Patch doll -- her favorite.  Now, many years later, that little doll has come to life.  We took a shot of the two of them -- TWINS!

Now, I look forward to reading all the other blogger's posts about their neck of the woods and what's been going on -- please join in the fun:

Baking In A Tornado
Juicebox Confession
Menopausal Mother
Spatulas on Parade
Searching for Sanity
Dinosaur Superhero Mommy
Southern Belle Charm
Go Mama O
Molly Ritterbeck


Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Sure-fire Way To Handle Discouragement

Do you ever get discouraged?  The definition of discouragement is 1) the act of making something less likely to happen or of making people less likely to do something 2)  a feeling of having lost hope or confidence

smiling baby
Find someone to make you smile
If that is the definition of discouragement, then what is the definition of encouragement?  It is 1) the act of making something more appealing or more likely to happen 2) something that makes someone more determined, hopeful, or confident

The interesting thing about the definition of both words is that discouragement and encouragement are an act that WE do.  It is not done TO us.  We perform the act.  We choose to be discouraged in a situation or encouraged by it and make the decision to change it.

In our darkest times, we need to find something or someone who we know will make us smile. It helps change our perspective and view the situation rationally.

Friday, July 15, 2016

When a Day at the Zoo Turns into a Horror Show

It started as a great idea.  I had no clue that my great idea would backfire and affect me for months - not in a positive way!

When I was a little girl, a highlight of my summer was a trip to the Detroit Zoo.  In later years my opinion of zoos did change as it began to bother me to see the animals caged rather than running free.  I realize that many of the animals in zoos are born in captivity and some have been rescued and given a new lease on life.

I certainly am not one who will rant and rave about this issue. I merely understand both sides.  But, I will probably never visit a zoo.  Ever.  Again.  I do realize that zoos have improved over the years and cages have been replaced with enclosed areas where the animals can roam freely but it still does not come close to what it should be and that is disturbing.

My husband and I have rescued over 30 dogs which made this subject close to my heart. 

Our children and grandchildren have grown up in rural areas so it was not unusual to see a bear wandering down the street and at times, arriving on your deck looking for garbage.

I heard about a "Game Farm" within three hours driving distance and imagined it would be a real treat for our grandchildren to see wild animals in their "natural" habitat.   The date was set.  It would be an adventure.  We loaded up three cars with everything we could possibly need.  Our lunch, umbrellas, granola bars for snacking on, sunscreen, bottled water, and some Frisbees to play with after lunch.

We were excited - young and old. 

Friday, July 8, 2016

Do You Want To Know A Secret?

Do you have secrets that you plan to take to the grave?  Are there things in your past that you want to bury and hope no one ever finds out about them?

Everyone has secrets. My mother-in-law had an undisclosed recipe for Rum Balls that she swore she would take with her when she died. And that she did.  No one ever figured out her secret ingredient.  But what good did it do for her not to share it so we could continue to enjoy her wonderful dessert?

There are secrets we hide, never discuss, and hope no one ever finds out.  We keep secrets to protect those we love or to prevent people from thinking less of us.

Friday, June 10, 2016

3 Life Lessons You'll Never Forget

Biting my tongue, I tried not to cry. The man on the other end of the telephone was breathing heavily and sporadically. When the seconds between each breath lasted too long, terror ran through my veins.

I needed more time. I needed him to breathe normally. I needed HIM. But the time had come. It was his time to leave.

I could tell by his breathing pattern how my words were affecting him. When the breaths came rapidly, I knew he was becoming emotional. When they were slower, it meant he was calmer.

I told him how much I loved him; how much I appreciated my heritage and the ethics he instilled in me. I thanked him for putting up with my incessant babbling when I got excited.  I reminded him how he would offer me 25 cents to be quiet for five minutes when I was a little girl. I felt him smile inside.

I'm the little one