How many 'if only' moments do we get? If only I had not said that. If only I had not gone there. If only I had made a better choice. If only I had called them. If only I had made the effort to see them one last time. If only.......
Once we have said it..... it is spoken.
Once we have done it.....it is done.
Can we take back the words, undo the deed? No.
Depression. Hopelessness. Battle
Weary. Despair. Many of us have used these terms to relay our
feelings. I have been on this road.....a lot.
In light of Robin Williams' death, we
have been encouraged to support the depressed. Pretty hard to do if
you don't know if someone is in need of help. Personally, I think one of the
worst things you can say to a depressed person is "Don't worry - Be Happy!" It only empathizes the point that they should not be
blue and creates an overwhelming feeling of guilt.
I encourage you to watch David Letterman's tribute to
Robin Williams linked here. David shared his relationship with his close friend of many
years. As close as they were, Mr. Letterman had absolutely no idea
of Robin Williams' pain.
A Lesson in Appreciation. I was raised to count my blessings. No matter how tough life seemed, my parents showed me that I could always find someone who was hurting more, owned less or who was not as fortunate or healthy as myself. They explained that by throwing pity parties, we will rarely accomplish more than underscoring how we already feel - hard done by.