Friday, March 8, 2019

Nothing Can Stop You - No Matter How Old You Are

 Nothing can stop you - no matter how old you are

How many times have you awakened in the morning and wondered what happened with the past three, four, five, six or seven decades?  Or have you looked into the mirror and felt it was unfair that life passed you by without giving you a chance to pursue the career you always wanted?  As much as some people look forward to retirement, what if you don’t have the income to maintain the lifestyle you have grown accustomed to?  Then there is the backdoor threat of Alzheimer’s.  You may wonder how you are going to stay alert and focused when your days may only be filled with volunteer community work or gardening.  Is your only option being a Walmart greeter?

I am one of those weird people who would rather work than play.  If I don’t have any pressing jobs to accomplish, I create one.  The few times I have focused on leisure instead of work, I got bored quickly.  As the years were fleeting by and I remained in great health, I could not imagine living without an on-going purpose or fulfilling a dream during my ‘golden’ years.

Choosing to be a victor instead of a victim

My life was not an easy one.  In fact, I endured more problems than most people would be able to handle.  The more negatives life threw at me, the stronger and hopefully, wiser, I became.  But what good is that wisdom if I couldn’t put it to valuable use?

When my daughter was a teenager she started a crusade to encourage me to write my memoir.  It started as a campaign and over the course of ten years, she made it a threat.  She had heard all my excuses and was not going to tolerate them any longer.  “Write your story or else!”  I never asked her what the ‘or else’ was nor do I want to know.  Finally, I began the journey of writing my story.

I never would have believed it could be so difficult but it was also a driving force as the more I wrote the more I realized I had a message the world needed to hear.  It was a message of never, ever giving up – no matter what happens.

Stepping WAY out of a comfort zone

My husband and I were in our sixties when we opened three high-end jewelry stores.  Shortly thereafter, my husband was in a serious car accident which left him disabled.  We found ourselves thrown into a situation that did not allow us to quit our jobs, or sell our businesses.  We had to keep going.  We weren’t given a choice.

When I was in my twenties, I became a certified health coach after I was told I only had two years to live due to cancer.  I refused the normal invasive treatments and opted to cure myself with nutrition and food supplements.  After complete restoration, I promised to help people with their health issues until the day I die. 

Where was I going to find the time to write a book? I had no idea my life was about to start over with a new career.  I wrote late in the evenings; and after ten years triggered by painful memories, I was ready to launch my book.

I took every available course I could find on marketing and promoting a memoir and my book sales began to soar.  Numerous opportunities to share my story as a keynote speaker meant I was on the road at least one week a month. 
The new normal

Then I had a brainstorm for my next project.  I started a podcast to interview ordinary people who overcame extraordinary circumstances and became successful as a result.  In the first hour after posting my idea on the internet, I had over 100 requests to be on my show.  What show?  I had to work swiftly to train myself how to podcast, how to edit and how to promote my show.  That was five years ago and Never Ever Give Up Hope is now heard in over 140 countries with unending daily requests to be part of the show.

When I look in the mirror I may see an old woman, but I also see one who can encourage anyone who wants more than what retirement may have to offer, when they come to a mature time of life.

I wanted to fulfill the dream of being an author, an international speaker and a talk show host.  At 65 these seemed like pipe dreams but I am now living them and looking forward to the next challenge.  As owner and operator of two jewelry stores, my health coaching business, traveling as a speaker, hosting and managing my talk show, writing for numerous magazines and anthologies, having my own monthly column in two magazines, being bookkeeper for all the businesses, taking care of a disabled husband and rescuing dogs (over 30 to date) where will I ever get the time to do more?  Yet, I know I will find that time.

Nothing is stopping you

We all have the ability and the right to choose what we do with our retirement years.  My choice was to start over – doing what I wanted to do and helping many others be encouraged and challenged to never ever give up hope.

Never limit yourself by making excuses why you cannot do what you always wanted to do.  Find a way.  Set your goals.  You will never regret it.  It will sustain your youth.  You have much to offer – start giving it away.
Gang raped and left for dead
Cancer diagnosis
Loss of a child
Husband falsely imprisoned
BUT...Carol chose to be a victor instead of a victim

This was a Secret Subject Challenge -- the question submitted by Karen from Baking In A Tornado  was "If you were to make the decision today, would you choose to retire where you are currently living or somewhere else and why?"  I could not answer that question because I never intend to retire -- and neither did anyone else in my family.

Grab a cup and check out the other bloggers who had a different secret subject:

Baking In A Tornado
Cognitive Script
Southern Belle Charm
The Bergham Chronicles
Crazy Mama Llama
Part-time Working Hockey Mom
Blogging 911



  1. I love your answer, it reflects exactly who you are. Some people aren't meant to retire, you just keep on being you.

  2. Carol, you are the gift that keeps on giving. Rock on, my friend!

  3. Haha, while the standard answer to your prompt may be "I'd move to Florida and enjoy the sweet life sipping cocktail and playing bingo" *your* answer of course is a completely different one!
    You are such an energy bunny, very admirable, and you'll never have to look back and regret not having pursued your dreams!

  4. Bang on girlfriend! Thank you Tamara.

  5. Hi, Carol. This article gives us many examples of your philosophy to never give up, no matter what the odds. Thanks!

    1. I hope so, Traci. Sometimes it isn't easy, but the rewards are great.

  6. Then, as they say, 'my job here is done!' LOL Thank you, Minette