Tuesday, October 27, 2020

What is the Secret to Handling the Little BIG Things?

I wanted to scream but resorted to talking to myself out loud. Could this day get any worse?

Stress Management. How many articles and books have been written on this subject?  How many medications are taken daily in hopes of managing the stress we experience? What coping mechanisms can we practice?  

You have heard it said, "Laughter is the best medicine."  That statement carries a tremendous amount of weight because if we find something to laugh about in any given situation, we get through it so much easier and faster.  Allow me to paint you a word picture to illustrate my point.

 If this doesn't make you laugh.....nothing will!

My son sold an engine mount for a motorbike on eBay and asked if I would mail it for him. No problem. 

I needed to purchase the necessary supplies for packing this irregular parcel and assumed they would help me do this without incident at the UPS store. I had collected $35 from the eBay customer which, again assuming, would be more than adequate funds to mail this part.  

They told me the parcel would be ready in about half an hour.  I went to the post office to mail other items and there was a thirty-minute lineup.  The post office is a great place to watch people deal with stress.  For some reason, apparently, the person standing behind the counter is at TOTAL FAULT for a parcel being lost in transit. It is also that employee's fault that the cost of postage is so high!

 Find a way to make people around you - laugh

I realize how stressful their job can be so I usually get the employees laughing. Wicket number one is Joe. He is bald, retiring soon, and has a handlebar mustache that he plays with consistently - probably a stress reliever. 

Ken, in wicket number two, is a very short man who thinks he is an Elvis impersonator and usually starts serenading me when he sees me come through the door. I try to ignore him and he just sings louder until I acknowledge him, with at least a nod. Is this a way for him to deal with his stressful day?  

Then there is Jim. He is a very good looking man with long curly gray hair. He is the most serious of the group.

Can you believe it?

My lucky day - I get Jim. We chat for a minute and one of the workers in the back recognizes my voice and comes out to say hello. This certainly makes up for all the time spent waiting in line and I joke with them both for a minute and get them laughing.

Now, back to the UPS store to mail the parcel. The girl who waited on me sighs a big sigh "Sorry, but I had to put three boxes together to accommodate the mount on the side and the cost is $20 to prepare it for shipping."

"No problem." I had collected $35 for shipping and figured I had plenty left for postage. I asked for the cheapest rate and after checking them all she said, "$120 is the cheapest." 

"Excuse me?" I assumed I did not hear her correctly and asked her to repeat it. Nope, heard her right. At this point, I decided to try the post office as I "hoped" UPS would be wrong. 

Now the stressful part...

This is where it starts to get stressful. Now that the engine mount was in a box, it would not fit into the back of my Jeep. The thermometer outside was rapidly rising and I was trying to manipulate this monstrosity into my SUV and finally managed it with a third of it sticking out the back window. It was over eight feet long.  

Back to the post office. After waiting in line FORTY minutes, with a box that is taller than me, Ken waits on me. He starts to sing about how long it has been since he last saw me, laughing because it was just earlier that day! I'm tired and hot and want to get this done!  He points out that a metal part has punctured the box and is sticking out the side. 

"Sorry, but you can't mail it in this condition. You will have to fix it and bring it back."  Thanking him I said, "OK, but can you tell me how much it will cost to mail it?"

He measures it and says, "$120." I felt like asking him if he was on glue but I held my composure. "If you are able to scrape two inches off the package, it will only cost $35."

A kind gentleman helped me get the box back into my vehicle and I head back to the UPS store. I explain the situation to the gal and we decided we would be able to make this work.  The first thing was to unbolt the crank that was sticking out the side of the box. We both tried to loosen it without any luck. We then made a little cardboard 'box' to fit around it to cover it completely. 

Then I explained the problem with the length. We tried to  "squish" it shorter. I sat on the box while she strapped it with heavy-duty tape.  

"There, that should do it!"  She measured it and it had now grown five inches. At this point, tears might have come easily but logic had to take over. I could do this. Once again, I didn't
believe her and measured it myself. It was only one inch over the limit. She suggested I go back to the post office and cry -- maybe the sympathy card would work in my favor.

 Will this ever end?

Load it back into the Jeep. Get in line. THIRTY minutes this time. When the guys saw me in line, there was loud laughter. I was thrilled to have made their day. SURE, it really was funny, but I was not having any fun.

Ken waits on me again. He measures it and I tell him, "I have to mail it for $35."  He measures it and says, "Sorry, that will be $200."  I must have looked like I was going to burst into tears and he started to laugh loudly. "Actually, you did a great job and it will cost you $29."

I had the last laugh

My day wasn't over yet. I had to travel to Canada and take care of some business there. I was extremely tired and the border guard asked me a strange question, "Do you have any mace?" Being a baker, I immediately thought of pumpkin pie spice and told him, "I don't make pies until Thanksgiving."  He looked at me like I was from outer space and then said, "Do you have any pepper spray?"

I started laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes and wanted to tell him about my day but kept my composure and assured him I did not have any weapons. I realize this is not considered a stressful day for people who have had serious problems and are dealing with situations that can be debilitating. 

But my point is.... I, too, have had a traumatic life and overcame cancer, marital abuse, loss of a child, suicide attempt, and huge financial losses.  Laughter got me through.

No matter how stressful the situation you find yourself in, you can find something to be thankful for and realize that it could have been worse. Attitude is extremely important when dealing with tension and having a positive one is the key to being an over-comer.


  1. Alls well that ends well! What a day! Glad you got through it by using laughter! Way to go!

  2. I think you got a bargain. I sent a parcel by UPS yesterday and it cost me $44.01 The box was only 5 x 6 x 7 inches and I had to package it myself.
    It was only going to the opposite corner of the city. Considering the amount of time required to find the receipt, get an RMA number, package the unit and deliver it to the UPS station, (after visting the post office first to mail a card to the UK). This Warranty repair is not really free is it.

    1. Good point. This happened a few years ago. I am sure it would cost a lot more now :)

  3. Oh, my, Carol, what a situation! Glad you could laugh about it all in the end. Yes, laughter is the best medicine.

    1. I think it really hit me when I was asked about mace

  4. Oh my, I'm glad you were able to find the humour in your day. I think I would have lost what little sanity I had when they told me how much to send the parcel......OMG!

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