If given the opportunity would you accept a RESTART button for your life? Would you like to travel back in time and change things? What might your life look like after you did that?
This is how I would answer that soul-searching question:
1) I would not have married the man my parents and family warned me against. If I had not married him then my life would have been a lot easier after the divorce. I would not have been gang-raped and left for dead (by his 'friends'). I would not have had my home completely destroyed by a gang of vandals (his friends). I would not have had an emotional and physical breakdown.
HOWEVER.....I learned a lot from those experiences and they helped make me the strong woman I am today.
2) In my second marriage, I would have convinced my husband to find another way to face the music rather than run away. Even though our intentions were good, the court did not see it that way and my husband went to prison for fraud as a result of our accusers lying to the court. Our only witness to our position committed suicide before the court date. Story of my arrest here.
3) I would not have adopted our little boy. A year after the adoption, his birth mother wanted OUR son back. We had no choice. Read why here.
4) I would have taken better care of my health as a young girl to possibly avoid cancer that almost killed me when I was 24 years old.
However.....if I never had cancer which forced me to find my own cure because I would not have a hysterectomy as the doctor ordered, then I would not have the health I experience today. I would not have become a symptomologist showing people how to live long and live healthily. Read more here.
5) I would not have trusted people, friends, and business partners who took advantage of my nature and naivety. I would have avoided losing hundreds of thousands of dollars.
HOWEVER....these lessons have been priceless and through my memoir, Battered Hope, has helped hundreds of people avoid these mistakes. As one reviewer put it "A must-read for anyone starting a new business!"
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| Even on that day, I was hiding my pain - knowing it was a mistake |
2) In my second marriage, I would have convinced my husband to find another way to face the music rather than run away. Even though our intentions were good, the court did not see it that way and my husband went to prison for fraud as a result of our accusers lying to the court. Our only witness to our position committed suicide before the court date. Story of my arrest here.
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| In FRONT of my little boy who was crying |
3) I would not have adopted our little boy. A year after the adoption, his birth mother wanted OUR son back. We had no choice. Read why here.
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| Adopted or 'home-made' -- losing a child is heartbreaking |
4) I would have taken better care of my health as a young girl to possibly avoid cancer that almost killed me when I was 24 years old.
5) I would not have trusted people, friends, and business partners who took advantage of my nature and naivety. I would have avoided losing hundreds of thousands of dollars.
HOWEVER....these lessons have been priceless and through my memoir, Battered Hope, has helped hundreds of people avoid these mistakes. As one reviewer put it "A must-read for anyone starting a new business!"
Each of us can think of things we would love to do over. None of us is given a RESTART button. Many years ago I stopped saying "If only...." and started saying "How can this help me?
What about you? Would you like a 'do-over' and if so, what would you have done differently?
What about you? Would you like a 'do-over' and if so, what would you have done differently?
There are some past experiences where I wish I could press a restart button, Carol, but if I'm honest with myself, I learned something valuable from each of those situations.
ReplyDeleteBlessings!
Hindsight is a wonderful teacher!
ReplyDeleteHmm. I have often wanted a restart button. In fact, I have longed for one at times. But as you said, that might mean that some of the good that happened wouldn't come my way either. Thanks for sharing your story!
ReplyDeleteYou know I agree with you Jeanine! :)
DeleteWow, potent story, Carol! And yes, there have been shine times ...
ReplyDeleteThank you Nadya.
DeleteHi Carol...
ReplyDeleteYes, a restart button would be handy in days gone by. But I feel through those life lessons, traumatic events and such in which I have lived experiences - I have been shown and given HOPE, found out that I was and am resilient, and I have a strength inside of me that I never knew existed. Those stumbling blocks of life are now stepping stones - even when a pebble becomes a boulder.
Living life to the fullest these days...and holding my head high! <3
Thanks for sharing this.
Nancy
I always refer to those 'stumbling blocks' as stepping stones. We are on the same page. Thank you for sharing. Nancy
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