"I'll be in touch." If I tell someone I am going to stay in contact with them, I make a note of it right then and there. Sometimes it means sending them a quick email to see when we can get together or to see what's new in their lives. Making the friendly gesture is only the first step. Keeping in touch is quite another.
I have heard those words so often and then wonder why they never call. Did they forget? Do they not care? It reminds me of the phrase from the second (or first) date "I'll call you." You know they don't have the slightest intention of calling so WHY waste breath by saying they will? Is it to appease the listener at the moment? It is just as easy to say "Goodbye" as it is to say you will be in touch.
"Call me if you need me." For most of us, it is not easy to ask for help. But if you need it, it is nice to know there is someone you can call. If they don't return the call, I can try again and if that fails, believe me, it is quite safe to assume that person is avoiding me. Let it go.
"You look great!" Didn't wash my hair in a couple days, ran to the grocery store sans makeup. Come on, are you blind? Say nothing -- let me wonder if I look good or not. I think people often say that to us as we age and then later they say, "She/he sure looks good," as they look at them in the coffin.
"Our thoughts and prayers are with you." When this is genuine, it is sincerely appreciated but.....how often is it? Talked to my girlfriend about this one the other day and she agrees that if we say that to someone, pray for them right then and there. If someone bears their soul to me, they need to know I will follow through and encourage them. I will make every effort to call them, stay in touch, pray with them over the phone and do whatever it takes to make them realize they are not alone and I really did mean those words.
This is the image I prefer to portray -- no one needs to know I am worrying......
Do you agree? Do you know of other things we say that we really don't mean?
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